EVOLVE YOUR AMAZING 

Did you ever wish that life could feel easier?

I'm here today to remind you that your life is supposed to be enjoyed, not endured!

So if you feel like you're going around in circles somewhere in your life...

Stressed with your workload, dealing with dramas and toxic people in your life...

Stuck in your career, feeling unhappy or unfulfilled inside family and social circles or improtant relationships or maybe even struggling with your fitness and health...

I want you to know that it doesn't have to be that way ❤

I suspect that even if you know what you "should" be doing to transcend your limits...

You often wonder, WHY does it feel so difficult to get on with the actual "doing" part?

The truth is that when we are fighting with our own survival mechanisms, our rational intelligence doesn't really help us to overcome our issues. 

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Because in a war against yourself, your anxiety, bad habits and addictions are every bit as intelligent as you are. 

So, this means that if you have a PhD... then your addiction or anxiety has one too!

The fact is that we can have around 60,000 or more automatic thoughts each day and most of these are biologically designed to justify, rationalise and give meaning to our existing reality, not to help us to change and evolve into a new one. 

So our brain works very hard to strengthen and support our existing habits (both good and bad), to keep us safe (often by over reacting to any slight perception of danger that lies around us) and to simply put in order to re-inforce our existing beliefs, no matter how unhelpful or limiting these may be.    

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So when we ARE trying to make changes in our life... we can often end up stuck in an eternal war between our conscious desires and our brain's own natural survival responses. 

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Like...

When one part of us wants to stop overeating or binging on unhealthy food (But we just can't seem to keep ourselves out of the naughty cupboards at home or stop ourselves from overindulging)

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Or when we are destroying ourselves by drinking excessively or far too often, consistently shaming and dissapointing ourselves and letting our friends and family down, yet each day, we resolve to stop "tomorrow", but when tomorrow comes, we can't seem to manage ourselves or our will power long enough to follow through with any of our promises. 

Or we may want to stop partying so much and using various substances to excess, we want to stay clean and be more productive. (But we feel like we can't stop smoking or behaving like a rebel raver, saying yes to all the wrong distractions and choices in life at the very first chance we get) 

Or...

We REALLY want to start doing more to improve our health, get in shape and control our life... like exercising more frequently and consistently, (Yet we can't seem to drag ourselves out of bed to put on our running shoes, never mind putting on a healthy new mindset)

Or

We yearn to be confidently working in a more focused way on our projects (But we keep letting ourselves get distracted and continually put off doing all of the difficult things until the very last minute)

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Maybe we just want to stop feeling anxious and to get out there in the big world a whole lot more, networking bravely and enjoying being socially active (But we hide away and make constant excuses, just so that we can avoid facing our own uncomfortable feelings and insecurities) 

And the truth is that we are ALL excellent at putting things off and believing in our own self lies...

Like "I'll do it tomorrow when I feel more like it..."

When the real question needs to be things like...

What makes us believe that we will feel any differently tomorrow than we do today?

The reality is that when we put things off until tomorrow we tend to feel even LESS motivated tomorrow than we do today.

In the end, we really want to feel free to make better choices for ourselves and to confidently put ourselves out there more in the world without worry and stress...

But when one part of us insists on returning to some of these unhelpful and faulty coping mechanisms , we only end up wrestling with our continual self-doubts and feeling held back instead.

In the end, it's no wonder we can feel so exhausted, drained and fed up, because being pulled in two different directions from the inside out is literally a full time job.

Wasting all of our time and energy on survival and battling with ourselves like this, instead of getting out there to fully enjoy life, having fun, and the real energy and confidence we need to go after our dreams, means we only end up going round in those fruitless circles.

And the truth is that this "stuck" feeling can happen to any of us, anytime and anywhere in our life....

Because our brains do not discriminate when it comes to running our internal survival mechanisms. 

And so, we can get stuck in loops so easily when we are trying to let go of our unhelpful habits, which makes life feel so much harder than it needs to be.

And... 

Pretending to be someone else all the time can also feel really hard too.

Because if you've been attempting to be superhuman and hide your fears and your issues...

Then, it becomes extra challenging trying to even do the everyday things, like making decisions, relaxing, being fully present with loved ones or being able to enjoy the beautiful parts of the life that you do have.

And...

The problem is that wishing to be more "normal", also means we continually fail to appreciate and how truly amazing we can be.

I believe that waking up to freedom, enjoying ALL of your life, AND having success in your careers, relationships, family and health, is a gift that we all DO deserve to have and to give to ourselves.

No matter how many times you have tried and failed before, I know that you can have and give this to yourself too, I did it for myself, and if I can do it, so can you!

And I've now seen and helped so many others achieve this for themselves too, even when they came in to my life without believing it was even possible for them.

If you want to chat with me just reach out and book a call, and let's see what I can do to help you too.